Getting real about health, wellness, and life.

Month: July 2017

Things I Loved in July + Goals for August

Things I Loved in July + Goals for August

Holy s***, it’s already August?! I feel like this month flew past me without even really happening. I mean, I’ve heard time starts going faster as you get older, but come on. Like, I feel as if I blinked and July is gone. Just me? […]

The Best Summery Citrus Yogurt Bowl

The Best Summery Citrus Yogurt Bowl

I feel like summer + citrus fruits = duh, is that just me? Oranges, grapefruits, and the likes are typically “meh” for me in all other seasons but summer? Heck yes. Give me all of them. In this bowl, we feature the grapefruit because I […]

Making Peace With Imperfection in Every Season of Life

Making Peace With Imperfection in Every Season of Life

Some days you wake up ready to kick ass and take names, and other days you find yourself hitting the snooze button repeatedly despite your endless to-do list. And sometimes the latter occurs for days, weeks, even months on end and you don’t really feel like you but a “meh” version of you. It’s called balance.

It’s the summer of 2017 and I am employed in 4 different places, enrolled in 2 summer courses, writing for 2 blogs, training for a competition, and trying to juggle the daunting task of maintaining a social life in the midst of all of this. I’ve kind of forgotten what a hobby is. It’s safe to say that I’m experiencing a season of life where everything feels average for me and it feels like I’m just getting by; right now, I’m a “meh” version of me but the bottom line is, this happens and it is okay.

Making Peace With Imperfection In Every Season of Life

And while I’m incredibly and wholeheartedly grateful for all of these opportunities that life is presenting me with right now, I can’t deny that I’m not functioning at my 100%; at best, I’m probably nearing a 70% (okay, even that may be pushing it).  I’m trying, but my best at this moment is much different than what it was last year or a week ago, and it’s sure as heck different than what someone else’s best is right here and right now.

What I’m trying to say is, we all experience these periods of “blah,” for lack of a better explanation, and it is not unique; it is simply a part of the human condition which we must understand and make peace with in order to simply stay sane.

If we’re constantly down on ourselves while in these flux states for our inability to function at optimal capacity and continually wonder what is wrong with us, we will only stay stuck in our heads and perpetuate the problem without working through it to find a solution. Frustration and guilt will only place more stress on us and in turn, we will handle these seasons of life 10x more poorly than we’re capable of.

We don’t expect it to be 90 degrees and sunny year-round (unless you’re living on a tropical island which, I’m sorry, but I highly doubt), so we can’t expect ourselves to be running at 100% 100% of the time. It just doesn’t make sense. Therefore, we have absolutely no right to get upset with ourselves when we enter these seasons of life; instead, we must accept them for what they are and continue moving forward given the circumstances.

To do this, we have to get real with ourselves. We have to evaluate where we’re at and how we got here. For me, I’m in this state because I’ve been fighting burnout every day for weeks on end and am struggling to stay present in order to focus on the tasks at hand; all my friends are hanging out and I want to be right there with them. I’m a less-than-perfect prioritizer right now, and I get it. I forgive myself for it. I’m not perfect and never will be, but this can be a learning experience.

Instead of beating yourself up for not feeling like yourself, embrace it. Self-care extra hard and take time to reflect, do what you love, and spend time with people that you love. It’s amazing what a simple phone call to a family member can do for your psyche.

Realize that without the unexciting, imperfect times, the best times wouldn’t even be possible. Like many other things in life, they are not mutually exclusive and therefore one cannot exist without the other. Accept that this is what reality is right now but that it is subject to change; it could take only a day or it could take weeks, but you need to be gentle with yourself and meet yourself where you are.

Making Peace With Imperfection In Every Season of Life

I like to believe that I’m running in tip-top shape 100% of the time, but if that were true, I wouldn’t be human and I sure as heck wouldn’t be writing this post right now. Learn to embrace your imperfection regardless of which season of life you are in and love yourself in spite of how much you are accomplishing. When you simply do the best you can, whatever that may be at the time, you are moving forward to your goal and that’s enough.

Life is constantly in flux and so are we; that is simply the way things are and once we decide to accept this rather than continually fight against it, these “stuck” states will happen less and less often for us and won’t be as damaging because we know that they will pass and we can learn from them rather than shame ourselves for them. Love yo self and the rest will follow.

Next time you feel yourself slipping into a “blah” season of life, go easy on yourself. Take a deep breath, accept what you’re experiencing as your reality, and realize that this too shall pass and you’ll come back so much stronger and kickass than before. Don’t be discouraged: you’ve got this!

 

What I Ate Wednesday!

What I Ate Wednesday!

Happy hump day, y’all! I spent the weekend at Camp Bisco and let me tell ya, it was an experience. I danced, I laughed, I met some really amazing people, and now I’m back to regular life. If any of you are reading this, I […]

Kiss Your Comfort Zone Goodbye and Start Growing With This Simple Tip

Kiss Your Comfort Zone Goodbye and Start Growing With This Simple Tip

So recently, I did a thing. I signed up for my very first USAPL powerlifting meet, agreeing to squat, bench, and deadlift my heart out amongst a bunch of other 63kg ladies of Virginia. I should mention that by NO means am I a powerlifter; […]

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

So I’ve been following Hummusapien, The Real Life RD, and Immaeatthat for a while now and above all, my favorite posts by far have been their weekly eats. Don’t ask me why I love peeking into what other people eat on a day-to-day basis so much because I couldn’t tell ya; it probably has something to do with my fascination for how others live their lives and it gives me inspiration in my own meals. Something like that.

Anyways, I thought I’d start doing the same in hopes of inspiring your food and sharing a piece of my life with all of you. By NO means do I seek to tell you what to eat or make you feel guilty for eating differently than me, this post is purely for enjoyment and inspiration purposes. So here we go!

I went out with a friend last night and didn’t sleep well; I mean, I woke up at 4:40 AM and kinda just sat in my bed and cried internally because I knew I wasn’t going back to sleep. So at 5:45, I rolled myself out and made some coffee, meditated, did some reading, then made my regular breakfast as of late: toast with cream cheese and peach jelly + butter with two sunny side up eggs and half a banana slathered with peanut butter. Can I get a hoyeaah?

RFM Eats; What I Ate Wednesday

I spent most of the morning after that at the post office applying for a passport because ya girl is going to AUSTRALIA! Anyways, I came home with ten minutes to spare before class and whipped up this How Sweet Eats-inspired smoothie: 1 frozen banana + chocolate protein powder + cacao powder + Sun Potion ashwagandha + Further Food collagen + Himalayan pink salt + PB2 + yogurt + milk topped with pecan praline granola and almond butter because duh. Quite literally ran out the door after taking this.

RFM Eats; What I Ate Wednesday

Surprisingly, that smoothie held me over through class, a dog walk, and a coffee date with a friend. I rushed home to get to the gym before work and ate the rest of the yogurt with some granola on top as pre-workout. I guess.

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

I’ve been powerlifting lately for a competition prep and my body has been craving allll the fats. And the carbs. Basically just all the food, and I’m down with that. I was super hungry after training and went with this fish taco! I used marinated swai from Trader Joe’s (the best), roasted squash and yellow pepper, melted burrata cheese, and homemade guacamole.

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

Followed by some dried oranges and figs because I literally always have to follow a meal with something sweet. Just me? I dipped them in almond butter because, ya know, that’s just what I do.

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

I went to class from 6-9 and was pretty hungry by the time I got out so alas, I made some oatmeal. I’ve been finding a bunch of weird, subliminal messages in my food but it’s pretty amazing to me how the mind and body are connected. I was thinking about my mom on the walk home and as soon as I got home, I craved this oatmeal and made it exactly how she always does (which is extremely different from how I usually make it). I didn’t even make the connection until I was eating and then thought, “Huh. Da** life, you crazy.” Anyways! Oats cooked in water + salt drowned in butter and brown sugar. Super simple.

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

And, of course, couldn’t skip dessert. Talenti was on sale this week so I had some vanilla blueberry crumble ice cream with a warm cookie I got off of Ambitious Kitchen’s Instagram story the other day. So good!

RFM Eats: What I Ate Wednesday

So, yeah, I eat cookies and don’t measure how many tablespoons of almond butter I eat, but that doesn’t make me any less healthy. I eat intuitively and give my body what it wants when it wants, and I function better like this. You can eat all the kale and green smoothies you want but if you’re not happy, you’re ultimately not healthy. Just some thoughts. Happy hump day friends!

Essential Matters: The Day of Rest

Essential Matters: The Day of Rest

I know what you’re thinking already; rest?! I have too much sh** to do to take a whole day to rest! A week ago I thought the same, but just hear me out for a minute and I promise it’ll be worth your time. Every […]

Real Food Matters: The Story Behind the Name

Real Food Matters: The Story Behind the Name

I find that each time I make an effort at telling my story, it changes in the slightest sense. Little details arise from the past that I had forgotten before, and I continue to learn more and more about myself as I open up. This […]